I love the practical arrangement between my wife and I with respect to our families.
Neither my family nor I expect her to return to my parents’ home for gatherings such as the eve of new year etc., as would be expected traditionally from the daughter-in-law.
Neither am I expected to look like I am generous with money by buying lavish gifts such as abalone, birds’ nest etc. for my wife’s family.
I look after my family and my wife, and my wife look after her family and myself. That is good enough. No unnecessary power play gestures are required.